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The Real Poop — Tip for Parents With a Hard Decision

It happened. I am now a real mother. Worrying about of all things — the “p” word. This is a disgusting blog entry, so if you are weak in the stomach about such things I’d suggest you stop reading this entry. However, if you have a child who has “trouble” letting go, this could save you some good money.

After my daughter spent a whole week in agony, I figured out that what I thought was first teething and then an ear ache was really she having trouble releasing very hard poops. It was gut wrenching (literally for her) to watch. With a father who is a retired pediatrician, I felt hesitant to call her doctor with this worry. I was staying with my dad for our vacation/work holiday in Minneapolis, so it was easier to ask him.

He suggested we put maple syrup in her bottle and increase the liquid intake. Turns out — it’s not just for pancakes!!

Just to be safe if his age-old remedy did not work, my dad also called the pharmacy for a natural remedy that for the sake of anonymity because it was a total rip off I will not tell you the name. This “natural” remedy or stool softener for infants under 1 year was $100 a vial. (Note: over the counter stool softener is not supposed to be given to children under the age of 1 year for some reason that my dad could not understand, but it says so on the package so we didn’t even try). Turns out, it also helped to pull back on the oatmeal she was having 3 times a day too. (Uh, DUH)… We also introduced yogurt into her diet to help with her liquid too.

The result is something I’d love to share, but well — I don’t think you want to know. Needless to say, she is her happy self again. Plus, I saved a $100 mistake that frankly would’ve really pissed me off!


February 25, 2010 Posted by | kids marketing, marketing to new moms, New Moms | , | Leave a comment

Daddy is Very Important Too!!!

It has been quite a journey since we’ve said “I do,” but the biggest trip my husband and I have taken is this past year becoming parents.

The one thing I tell new moms to do is — appreciate the father!  From the time in the delivery room on, it’s all about YOU and your baby. Dad can feel kind of left out.

It’s pretty awful for them as people tell you what a great mom you are and rarely compliment dad. My husband and I have worked hard at talking about how to work together as partners. I also am conscious of making sure he knows how very much he is appreciated as often as I can. I’m not perfect though and do slip up. It’s definitely not easy. I recognize it will also be an ongoing battle.

The net-net is that he is a great dad. Our daughter adores him. At 8 months, she laughs and smiles when he walks in the door. She can’t wait to see him when he picks her up from day care. She loves sitting with him as he watches her play with her toys (and sometimes plays along with her popping up the animals in the pop up toys or laughing as she grabs a ball away from him). She and he also have some alone time when I am away that includes his guitar playing. She really claps and sings along in her 8 month old ways.

If I can give new moms any advice, it is to appreciate dad for everything he DOES do and try to let the things he doesn’t do slide a bit. It’s helped a lot with me. Messy house isn’t as important as the time he spends with our daughter. Laundry will get done with or with out the right fabric softener. My greatest lesson in being a mom so far as our baby girl turns 8 months has been learning to be a “partner” with him in raising her!

Good luck to all of you new moms. This time together as new parents is fun, but it isn’t all games. It takes a lot of patience! (And let’s just say, it isn’t just spent on your baby). Your husband will need “affirmation” often. I swear this was the best advice I got from one of my sisters — Remember, your husband is just as much a new parent as you are!  Give him every day appreciation for the job he is doing as a dad. (Yes, I know he doesn’t have to live with stretch marks or boobs that feel like rocks).

February 23, 2010 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Solid Foods & “Finger” Foods – When is the right time?

Our daughter is sitting up, clapping, smiling and has 2 – count ’em 2 – teeth!  She eats three meals a day of solids with snacks of three bottles in between. I’ve read that six meals a day is a good way to get your baby growing. She’s not quite crawling yet, but on her way. All of the packages say that crawling is the sign that she’s ready for those “finger foods” that make you want to just SQUEEZE them when they start. You know — when she gums Cheerios or sucks on those Gerber Graduates. So darn cute!

I’ve been anxious to get her to this point, but feeding time is pretty fun already. She is very aware of how cute she is though. When she’s hungry and we feed her the oatmeal that she loves, a humming sound comes out of her mouth. When she is done eating something like Green Beans (which are DISGUSTING by the way and form a weird off green mustache all over her mouth), she does a raspberry with her mouth and the food goes a flying!  Remember, the dark, “puke” color green is not attractive on any fine table cloth you’ve put down for guests. Nevertheless, it is super cute! We can’t stop laughing. (Suppose it’s not good to encourage her).

All of the articles I’ve read vary, so I’m just having a hard time deciphering. Crawling seems to be important, but so is your child’s ability to mash and gnaw at food, which she is already doing. Her two teeth are quite capable (thus, breast feeding is fast becoming obsolete — going down to morning only and it often ends with her biting me). She is also showing some other signs in that she sucks well on food. She is enthusiastic about food too.

The next stage is not just for Cheerios and Gerber Graduate snacks, but also the fun meats and less mushed veggies. Cut up carrots, peas that are cooked are on the agenda mostly. Some squash too. It seems a bit scary in that she could choke with finger food if she’s not ready, so I’m going to probably wait until she crawls. She is almost there — hands on the floor, butt up in the air and legs ready… just not moving any where. Guess it’s typical for my side of the family. Lazy bums that we are, we talked first. She does talk a lot. I’m told by our daycare experts that she is even talking to her self. (To which, my husband replies that she gets THAT from me)… Guess I’ll have to wait for the finger foods for a while.

She will make it there I’m sure. She comes from good eating genes marked by the sign of my still-too-tight jeans from my pre-pregnancy days. Food is such a fun endeavor. Am so glad she agrees!

February 5, 2010 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment